Dating After Divorce – The Do’s & Don’ts

There’s no doubt that dating after divorce can be daunting. Let’s face it, you probably never thought you’d be back in the dating saddle, but life doesn’t always go to plan and getting divorced is one of those curve-balls that prove that theory.

No doubt it’s years and years since you last went on a date with someone new so you possibly need a refresher course on dating, especially if you feel vulnerable and nervous – which is entirely normal. Dating after divorce comes with its own set of unwritten rules, so let Next Love take you through the Do’s & Don’ts of dating after divorce and help you along your journey to finding happiness once again.

Do Love Yourself Before You Love Someone Else

Divorce can leave you feeling distinctly lacking in confidence especially if your ex-partner didn’t make you feel good about yourself. You must remind yourself that your marriage is in the past and what matters now is what the future holds. If you don’t give yourself a chance, then no-one else will - you deserve to love yourself. Whatever happened in your past relationship should stay in the past. You have plenty of positive attributes so focus on what they are. Remember that no-one is perfect and your future new partner won’t be perfect either!

Don’t Go Out With Just Anyone!

This means be clear on the type of person you want to meet. When you have learned to love yourself, you can have a better idea of what you appreciate in the people around you. Don’t just go out with anyone available, go out with people who you feel you will have things in common with. We have a better chance of growing when we live with people we aspire to be alike.

Do Know What You Want

Some people want to date lots of people just to have fun and explore the world of dating post-divorce; others want a steady and serious relationship. Some people look to find their new other half with the intention of re-marrying in the future and some people just want pleasant companionship. Know what you want and make sure that the person you’re considering dating wants similar things.

Do Mention Dating To Your Children

Unless of course they are very small in which case they won’t fully understand. However if you have children and they are of an age where they do understand it’s a good idea to be honest and open so there are no surprises.

Remember that they’ve gone through the divorce too. Be prepared that they might not like the idea at first. Remember that you are entitled to happiness and in fact, your children’s happiness relies on it. Many children are positive about their parents finding love again so don’t be worried about discussing dating.

Don’t Pretend To Be Someone Else

By this we mean you should always be yourself. You need potential new partners to see you for who you are so be proud of the person you are and let it show. If you do put on an emotional mask then sooner or later it will slip. By the same token – be positive about life, and proud of who you are. It is the only way to meet someone truly right for you.

Do Try Online Dating

If you’ve wondered about online dating before then why not try it? Thousands of people worldwide use online dating after divorce to seek out a fabulous new partner and it works! The beauty of online dating means you can really pinpoint what you want in someone, you get to see a snapshot of what they look like and their personality shines through their profile.

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