Dealing With Rejection When Online Dating
In any situation, rejection is very discouraging but do remember it plays an important role in life and no-one goes through their life without experiencing it. It is most upsetting when rejection applies to a relationship but it’s wise to remember that until you find the right relationship, there’s bound to be times when you feel rejected by someone else.
It’s very important to focus on how you deal with rejection rather than using it an emotion that destroys your confidence and that’s the difference! If you have been rejected online there are lot of things you can do to get yourself back on track and out there dating again. It’s easy to say take it on the chin – but those who are successful when online dating do take it on the chin! So get up, dust yourself off and start again with Next Love’s tips.
1 It’s Normal To Feel Hurt
It is entirely normal to feel hurt and upset and sometimes it can actually feel as if you have a physical pain. Allow yourself time to get over your rejection but don’t allow yourself to dwell on feeling miserable for months on end! You must set yourself a time limit and try your best to get yourself back online and meeting new people. It only takes a few emails in your inbox from like-minded people to help restore some confidence. Put a toe in the water and start to peruse the profiles on Next Love. Sooner or later someone will pique your interest and before you know it you’ll start up a conversation. Often it’s the thought of getting back in the saddle that is daunting but once you’ve got past that – you’ll make a return to the dating game in no time. Remind yourself that the pain will go away. The saying Time Heals is very true so keep muttering that to yourself every time you feel a stab of rejection pain.
2 Focus On Your Loved Ones
If you’ve been rejected by someone you had feelings for or you certainly thought you could develop feelings for, turn to those who do love you for comfort. It’s also a good idea to focus on their needs too because this helps you to forget feeling rejected and helps to remind you that you are wanted and needed by others.
3 Don’t Lose Your Confidence!
Yes that’s easy to say but try and focus on your positives. Rejections aren’t usually personal – they may well feel like it but when you break it down it’s not about you, it’s about the both of you combined. Think about the other person’s short-comings, are you sure they were perfect for you? Be really honest with yourself and you’ll be bound to find there were things you weren’t sure of or perhaps didn’t even like! Maybe they were lazy, perhaps they were selfish or aggressive – maybe you were together because you didn’t want to be alone? List the negatives; there will be some – maybe lots!
4 Play The Field!
Don’t settle on one person until you are absolutely sure that person is right for you. Date a few people at once and have some fun and enjoy being on the circuit. That way if someone has rejected you, just think to yourself “So what?” You have another date in the bag next week!
5 Keep Going
Deciding you don’t want to carry on dating after rejection won’t do you any good at all. Remember that the people who do meet their soul mate also went through rejection but they carried on going. If you really want it to happen – it will happen so don’t give up. Some people get straight back online and within days they’re out there, dressed up, looking good and meeting someone new. That person should be you. So go and buy a new outfit, get your hair done and put on your make-up, there are thousands of good looking men and beautiful women all desperate to meet you on Next Love, don’t pass up the opportunity.